Often, claiming to be direct or “telling it like it is” is really just an excuse for using language as a weapon. Think carefully about your intent in “telling the truth.” What are you trying to accomplish by offering feedback at this time and in this way? Will your words get you closer to or further away from that place? Think too about how the words you choose will impact the listener’s sense of self as well as your personal integrity and your relationship in the long term.
You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. Buddha
- What I love about me – make a list of your top ten.
There are 168 hours in a week. If you spend 44 hours working and 54 hours sleeping, there are 70 hours left over. That’s a lot of time. – Laura Vanderkam
What would it mean to claim some of that time for activities that nurture, propel and restore you? You can decide how you want to use your time. You can decide to make self-care a priority 3 or 4 hours out of 70. Why not give it a try?
If I had a dollar for every time I heard a woman say, “I’m a giving person. I would give my last dollar or the shirt off my back if someone asked me to,” I would be rich. When I hear that, or anything similar, I often respond, “if you put yourself last others will follow your example.” That is true with most things, including money. Completely ignoring your needs is rarely, if ever, noble or wise. For many of us money woes, including high debt and low savings, are often a result of constantly putting self last – ignoring our own needs. Now here many people might say sure, I have a hard time saying no to others but I usually say yes to myself, too. But is that really what is happening? While it is nice to treat yourself to new shoes or a daily morning coffee, that isn’t really the same as saying yes to yourself. Really saying yes to yourself isn’t about how much you spend or acquire. Instead it is about finding ways to recognize and honor your highest vision of yourself, not settling for the temporary salve commerce provides or starving your emotional energy and dreams under the stress and worry of over consumption.
Understanding your money habits is a good way to start facing money problems and making goals that support your financial health. If that prospect seems overwhelming, don’t panic. You don’t have to do everything right away. Choose one manageable task each month until you feel you have a good grasp on your financial situation. Maybe this month you can start a spending diary (where does your money go? write down every dollar you spend for at least one week), consolidate or defer student loan debt (while you are on the phone, ask about income based repayment plans) or save something (no amount is too small) via automatic debit.
Your BMI or body mass index is a way to measure your body fat based on your height and weight. Health professionals advise that a BMI between 18.5 and 24.9 is ideal. A BMI of 25 to 29.9 is considered overweight, while anything over 30 is obese. You can reduce your BMI (and risk of chronic illness, such as diabetes) by exercising regularly and embracing an active lifestyle. Start simply – just move more all day. No need to join the gym right away or invest in fancy fitness clothes. Take a walk after work. Dance after dinner or wear a pedometer and challenge yourself to get in as many steps as you can everyday.